Tuesday, October 29, 2013
We all buckled up and waved our good-byes as we drove HOME. "PAPA!!!!" "DRIVE MACHINE!!!" said Kelly. Me and my oldest girl, Sally looked at each other with tears in our eyes. No words were spoken, but the tears from both of our eyes told much. We were exhaling from the end of our "journey of waiting". Laughs, tears, wonder and joy. Our van held all 6 of us in the first drive home.
The first morning, waking up and all 4 kids played. It was like Christmas around here and I still could not believe that we had entered the other side of this journey. The first meal, the first movie and popcorn on the couch, the first of joining our family traditions, the first of many firsts.
In these beginnings, there is both sacred and sinful moments. In the fierce battle of waiting for our son to come home, I thought I found faith, but now, I realize that God takes me to places my faith would never go, so that my faith will be made stronger.
I laugh out loud as I think about me, being the wife of my husband or the mom of these 4 kids. I would have never chosen me, but God reached down and saved me for this, for these steps I take. I look back and think, "There is no way me yesterday could be here today" But that is truth, isn't it. I am not who I was yesterday, I am being changed by the grace of God. His adoption of me to be in His family, to be changed forever, that defines me now.
Tomorrow, here we come.
Posted by Kimberly at 11:29 PM
Saturday, September 7, 2013
I remember the night before I would be induced with our first son, our first child. I had prepared as much as I could, but yet, I lay there wondering, if I could have done more. I knew life was about to change in many ways, but I could not image the truth of it. I was about to walk into something I had not experienced, but soon would become my reality.
We wait here in Haiti. Everything has been done. We just wait for them to give us our Visa on Monday. Then we go home. I find myself in a similar place as the night before my first son was born. Gosh, we have prayed and longed for this day, but I did not foresee these last few days of waiting as it has been. How has it been?
Over the past 3 years, I have acclimated to the waiting, to the disappointments, to the bonding trips, the good-byes even. It has become my normal life. Though it has been hard every day to swallow, I would hope for the end, but lost sight to its reality.
As I wait over the next few days, my reality of what is to come is heard, but not yet experienced. It is a tricky place to be and hard to contain as a human.
I am the person in a race waiting, both at the start line but also the finish line. I have run a race that has taken more than I thought I had to give and I am exhausted at its end. Everyone cheers, and I am trying not to collapse.
But then, I find out, that the race I just ran was only the training for what is to come. These last few days have been a transition to rest and cope with this reality that is to come. I am at the line waiting for the gun to go off and the next race to begin. My mind knows it is coming, my body has been prepped for endurance, my feet are fit with the shoes to run as much as the race demands, but my heart pounds in this unknown that I wait for and I am afraid and excited all in one.
I guess everyone has a tension like this in their life at some point. I am thankful for those who go before us in these races who can help us and encourage us forward. I am thankful I am not alone, even if in this waiting moment if feels that way.
I am reminded of our Lord who has brought us here, who will move us forward.
Our first trip to Haiti, I looked out over this land from a mountain on top of the city of Port Au Prince. I remember thinking, this will become a part of my story, my life and I was starting the race of adopting our son. In the house we stayed at there was a sign in French and it said, "God did this for us". And now I can say, Indeed He has and God will do this for us ahead. Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not yet seen. (Heb. 11:1) So I will hold fast to the confession of my hope without wavering for He who promised is faithful. (Heb. 10:23) Thank you for all who continue to pray us through these last few days of waiting and into the next race in our story.
Posted by Kimberly at 3:58 PM
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Today has been a long awaited gift. At 6am this morning we got an email stating that our official Visa appointment had been scheduled for next week. They really approved all of the work. They really would let us take our son home. I can't believe it. In the last 2 years and 11 months, the paperwork of our lives has been exposed and exchanged over many hands. And today it was all said to be enough, approved and the last hand had brought it to the end.
How does one feel in that situation? What do you think when you come to a place like that?
Gosh, I can only speak for myself.
When I started this journey, I had NO IDEA of it's terrain that would send my life into drastic change. I had NO IDEA what it meant to step into brokenness that was not your own. I had NO IDEA the cost it would ask of our money, time, friends, family, emotions and strength. I had NO IDEA the lessons it would serve my mind and soul. I had NO IDEA what it would produce in my heart. I had NO IDEA.
This summer our paperwork for adoption has flown through more hands than I could keep up with. We knew the end of this journey was coming, but never could I really grasp it. Montana, Florida, London and back to Montana. (Good grief!) Who could keep up with the Stewarts. But I heard an echo in my heart...."No eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him.." 2 Corinthians 2:9 Yet, I have been so jaded by the waves that have crashed upon me and knocked me down over and over in this journey. Can this really be true? So, I have walked slowly, wounded at the end of this land of waiting. I have found my summer to be a constant position of holding my breath and just saying, "God do this and carry me the rest of the way."
I remember a friend telling me, "One day this waiting will be over and you will not have it anymore." That has carried me through this journey, desiring so much to wait well and trust in my Lord who had brought us to this journey. The waiting is so hard and more often than not you don't believe it's beatings will ever end, but there comes a moment after entering into brokenness that you become thankful for it's wounds upon your soul. It produces new life and you lose the old. It becomes beautiful, though you would never wish it's beauty upon yourself. It becomes a gift.
This morning I woke up to an email that told me, "this journey will last only a few more days" How do I respond to that? Tears finally fell down my face. I feel like I have lost my tears over the last few months, but they came streaming down as my family and I embraced and then as we thanked our God for all He had done. Tears ran down my face as I exhaled, then came more as I begged God to bring the rest home. It is bittersweet to know you are done, but that there are still so many journeying behind me that long for their end. I took my 3 kids to school and thought about how much they had changed over these past years. This journey has changed all of us.
How do you respond to such a journey that has announced that it will soon end?
Right before I got married, I sat down to think about what I wanted to happen when I walked down the aisle. I can't help my sentiment. I told my friends, I just wanted to "take it all in" so that I never forgot. And that is what happened. I remember everything about walking down that aisle.
As I walk into these last few days, I want to take it all in. There are literally 100's of people who have joined this journey with us and I know that God has brought us all to see the final day when our son is home. I pray that I will walk these last days so that you might see that this is actually not about us, but about our God who rescues and redeems our broken lives. Watch with me and you will see what He will do. Because this journey is a apart of a larger story....this terrain may end soon, but another one is coming and I am ready.
Posted by Kimberly at 9:53 PM
Monday, May 20, 2013
Monday morning, here I go again. Attempting to walk right back into life after saying good-bye to my son in Haiti for the 12th time. But I find myself at a familiar cliff looking out into an ocean of unknowns.
The routine is typical. Kids back in school, looking at calendar to see what the week holds, grocery list, wading through the "to do's" that fill up my list. One would think that being gone a week would not effect much. And I agree, but it isn't even the week missed that effects me so much, it is the weeks that lay ahead that are hard to walk forward in.
I find myself at that familiar place again. Wishing I could go sit alone for a while and sort through my emotions. It is the good-bye and the waiting and the tears and the laughter with Kelly that is hard but it is also living between 2 countries . I step on a plane and I am instantly in a world of need or a world of abundance. I leave a world going fast and into a world who knows nothing of time or urgency. I walk into a world of order into a world of chaos.
I am changed...and continue to change as I travel between these two worlds...and yet, every time I get back to this world, I find it hard to re-enter. It is familiar more than the world of Haiti. But it seems that my world here can not handle the things in which the other world has taught me. I find myself paralyzed. Walking forward but numb and weary.
This morning I screamed, "ENOUGH!" I can't handle anymore. I am going to break down and I fear lose myself in this war that rages with the mind, the body and the soul....leaving me and many others on this journey wounded....weary.
How do we keep on? It seems the closer we get to bringing Kelly home the more bitter, "waiting" is. Perhaps this journey is simply to prepare us for the next journey of having him home.
As soon as I screamed "Enough!" I heard the Lord say, "Has my grace run out? My strength run out? have I run out?" "Enough, means there is no more help to move on....am I all knowing to say that God has run out?"
We are a people who filter our lives through the truth that God has set before us. We wearied out a long time ago on our own thoughts, strengths and beliefs. We have found the truth of God to set us free over and over and carry us through the greatest battles and into the greatest victories. But as we wait for Him to make all things right, as He will one day, we waver in unbelief in moments like this.
2 1/2 years between 2 countries seeking to bring our son home. Is this God forgetting about us? oh, we have asked that question a million times. But though we doubt, truth remains. God has not forgotten. He is on the move...He is working in all things to bring about something beautiful. And often we can only find a few of the thousand things He is doing.
Our friends who wait with us, You know this journey I speak about, don't you? You know the Monday morning after Skype days with our kids or after Bonding trips that end in "not yet, my child". You know that shaping that is happening in our hearts and minds. I am so thankful for you.
Rather than saying, "ENOUGH!" today I am reminded that God has not run out. That is my battle- to believe HIM. His nearness is our good. What I really am screaming for is my need for "enough strength, enough grace, enough provisions, enough mercy, enough power, enough justice." Is my God enough? He says he is. And so that is what I will bank my life on today...even if I can't get my schedule together or motivation to get back into "life".
When I have had enough, He is enough.
And I can trust that my son will come home, when God Himself, says, "ENOUGH". Not a minute will continue as it is and my son will come home. And we will be able to say, "God was enough for all of our needs"
Though I walk slowly back into this world today, I walk. And trust that the Lord who directed me in this path will see me through it to the very end.
Help me believe, Lord, Help me believe! ENOUGH! Be ENOUGH for us, Father!!
Psalm 40:17 As for me, I am poor and needy, but the Lord takes thought for me. You are my help and my deliverer; do not delay, O my God!
Posted by Kimberly at 2:05 PM
Thursday, April 11, 2013
Typically, when I have talked about Haiti and adoption, it has been about our own son, Kelly, whom we are waiting to bring home from Haiti....but today I want to introduce you to the other "Kelly" I found in Haiti.
Kelleigh Black is her name. She was the friend I never knew I needed when I set out on this adoption journey. I don't even know where to start with describing her. She is one whom, when you meet her, you can't help but find strength. She is a nurse by trade but to her family and friends she is far greater...being a nurse is simply a disguise in which she is able to touch the worlds around her. Kelleigh Black loves LOVE. Maybe that is why she came to Austin, TX from Maryland and got a tattoo that says "Love Wins"...or because her story from the beginning, tells of one that loved extremely, to the ends of all things. She is a woman who has faced suffering even at a young age and yet found all the circumstances of life to be seen through the eyes of love. She will make you (or me or Karla or JoAnn or Christi or maybe it was Jill) laugh so hard that you pee your pants. She is crazy! She touches people's lives wherever she goes and brings freedom to hearts...but what lead her to me, or rather me to her, is that she followed alongside her magnificent husband with her 2 brilliant sons to find their other sons who lived in Haiti.
We met in March 2011 on a bonding trip with our sons...the first for both of us. Quickly, stupidity and a passion for justice bonded our souls...and for both of us...what started as a journey to find our sons...immediately humbled us...finding that these Haitian boys would touch our lives far more than we would theirs...a journey that would change our souls forever.
A bonding week that turned into a month that turned into more bonding trips that turned into more months and then a year that turned into 2. The journey of adoption was proving to be more than we signed up for. And soon we were discovering our own adoption, the one that led us here in the first place. In fact, many families joined us and this journey became more about our community than our individual stories. It was beautiful!
There are far too many stories to tell...too many miracles to recount of what our God has done...too many laughs to relive....But we hold them close to our hearts
Tonight, I am overwhelmed at this friendship that God would give to me. And not only of Kelleigh, but of her family, extended family and close friends.
Today and tomorrow all of us ,as well as many who have gathered over the last 2 1/2 years of her Haitian journey, will assemble our eyes to watch she and her husband come home with their sons from Haiti. Tonight, they landed in Haiti and the waiting ended. They have waited well and taught us much.
Tomorrow they will start another journey. We all hold our breath and then we exhale as we watch HOPE fulfill the longing in hearts....and the Blacks enter into forever together.
I am reminded of my Lord...who promises that there is coming a day...when he will renew all things and not leave us as orphans but come for us and bring us into eternity forever and all things suffered will be bound and glory will rise to the King of all Kings, Jesus who is our Lord and our hope.
So while we wait, we have a dim picture today in this family...All praise to Him today. He is enough. He has made a way and will continue this ministry called, Adoption. Glory to Him, He alone is our Hope and in fulfilling our hearts brings us into the tree of life!
Posted by Kimberly at 12:49 AM